Some people dress to attract romantic interests. This isn’t about catering to the sartorial choices of others. It is about the conscious decisions we make while negotiating erotic capital on our own terms. That said, this post will examine a few women’s fashion trends that leave many-a-heterosexual male judging “hot or not.” [This is the first article in a series that will address the equally important analysis of looks that apply to heterosexual women, as well as same-sex attractions.]
1. Uggs/Shearling Boots
We know you know that a most talked about fashion don’t is Uggs. But, Vogue recently endorsed the boots that make our feet look like elephants, so it’s time to bring them back up again. It’s no surprise that the fellas hate them, and we all know the “but they’re just so comfy!” plea doesn’t seem to cut it (unless you’re a surfer and slipping them on right out of the water in your wet suit -- as they were originally worn). Vogue aside, to many men they are a sign of forfeiting the fashion game.
Happy Medium: If you can’t imagine parting with your beloved Uggs, be our guest and pull the Vogue card. Or, you can swap them out for these instead, the Cole Haan Air Whitley Knee-High Boot is knit-lined for comfort and has the Nike air insoles that men and women alike rave about. Cole Haan and Nike are splitting up soon, so we recommend you get a pair while you can.
2. The Baldy, or Half-Baldy
When it comes to fashion policing, we all wear a badge. Heterosexual males seem to police recurring items: shearling boots-- anything that resembles an Ugg, high-waisted jeans, and fitted/baseball caps. While the heterosexual male’s take on women with short hair is a topic in itself, the new trend of female buzz cuts-- which one male referred to as a “full-blown baldy.” The type that singers Cassie and Rihanna (among others) have rocked is known as ‘half a baldy,’ is rarely received well. While the look itself can be pulled off with daring confidence on the part of females, the further asymmetry of what the buzzed side will look like while growing back frequently keeps the lack of locks amiss in the opinion of heterosexual men.
Happy Medium: Regardless of what men think, if you love this look, we have a good solution to achieving it without saying goodbye to your hair. Pin back your hair on one side for more of a sultry look, or get one side cornrowed-- you can have the badass look for a temporary amount of time.
3. Drapey Clothing
Many of the men questioned also did not have an affinity for oversized or drapey articles of clothing like gaucho pants, maxi or tent dresses (otherwise categorized by men as ‘pregnancy clothes.’ Yikes.) However, clothes that leave little-to-nothing up to the imagination is not a solution. Too high of a heel or too short of a skirt tends to make men gawk, but more than anything it also makes them chuckle and objectify.
Happy Medium: If you want to be taken seriously, dress the part.
One rule of thumb: if you are uncomfortable, constantly adjusting your top or pulling down that skirt, your audience probably is too. Heels, dresses, and skirts done well are fan favorites for everyone.
The brains behind our site, Anna, notes that it’s important that women feel attractive in their clothes, even in the workplace. Disregarding any trend, the confidence and comfort of the women underneath these clothes remains the bottom line for any calculation of attractiveness. See how to wisely take full advantage of your assets here.
4. Don’t Be Scared To Man/Person Repel
Naturally, there are moments when we play into the perceptions of our counterparts, but there are also plenty of moments we defy them with extreme edginess or avant-garde pieces. Stylistic statements such as these are captured in the efforts of the well-known blogger, Leandra Medine. The self-proclaimed "Man Repeller" coined the term to refer to “outfitting oneself in a sartorially offensive mode that may result in repelling members of the opposite sex. Such garments include but are not limited to harem pants, boyfriend jeans, overalls (see: human repelling), shoulder pads, full-length jumpsuits, jewelry that resembles violent weaponry and clogs.” If you want to be seen as someone who is unapologetically fashion forward, dress accordingly -- but not to the point that your image sells your personality, goals, and intentions short (see everything above). Leandra manages this well.
Ultimately, you decide how to tastefully stay true to yourself. Whatever you decide to wear, wear it with confidence. At Sociology of Style we offer no laws, but strategies to effectively portray that very confidence. It takes work to align your core style with your comfort zone while still speaking to your audience. When you do so, own it. You’ll not only earn the attention, but the respect from guys and girls alike.